This week, I want you to try to write about lost love. Either write a memoir piece, or try creating a fictional story. Lost love can be interpreted in a lot of different ways; you could consider a love who has died, or a couple that never quite got together, or someone who fell out of love with someone. You could write about any one of a hundred bittersweet partings and disappointments. The point is to capture that sense of loss that is so keenly felt when we wonder what might have been. Love lost is always a significant part of the human experience because it exposes our rawest emotions and our barest selves. It shows us at our best and our worst, our wisest and most desperate, our most foolish and most generous.
What I do want to emphasize is that this piece should not be a break-up story. While a break-up story can be beautiful, as I'm learning from my current literary magazine internship, it's the most common storyline in the slush pile. It is common and unremarkable, and should be avoided. But maybe you're asking what a break-up story actually is.
It's a bit of a tenuous definition, but the break-up stories that are a dime a dozen in the slush pile tend to be slow-moving, overly thoughtful takes on a couple in decline. The love is gone in the relationship, and it usually ends in a realization that the other person isn't who the first person thought he or she was.
Do you see the difference between a love lost story and a break-up story? A love lost story still has love in it. A typical break-up story is merely the discovery that love isn't there at all. It keeps the characters reserved -- depressed, maybe, but still not baring the best and worst of themselves. So keep your stories interesting -- write about love, not about the lack of it.




Sometimes we can get in a serious writing rut. A rut might be when we have one successful story about one topic, and then we can't help writing about that topic over and over. Or else we can't help continuing to write with the same old, overused and flat phrases. Like in other aspects of our lives, it's easy to fall into old habits that don't leave us room to grow, improve, and change. It's important to force yourself to climb out of that writing rut periodically, so here are a few strategies for doing just that.
When we're stuck in our own small neighborhoods or even big, busy cities, we often forget about what the world is like beyond our own borders. We think only about the laws, the society, the restaurants and languages and people that can be found within our immediate sphere of experience. Our own experiences can be greatly enriched, however, if we take a little time to explore the lesser parts of the globe, or even just to imagine what life is like far away. 

